Oh Claire and Mya. If only you had an idea of just how much you are loved, cherished and how proud we are of each of you. You are the most beautiful girls--inside and out. While the words below are not my own, they could just as well be. I found this letter online and it eloquently summarizes what is on my heart and in my mind each day. Despite the hustle and bustle of life, I try desperately to "live in the moment." While I desire a well organized, calm life, I've come to the realization that one day I will look back and long for these days. Days where we are running to and from activities, a house filled with noise--laughter, arguing, chatter, time of play, watching your magic shows, concerts or plays, watching you dress up in princess dresses asking to wear high heels, jewelry and makeup, watching you and listening to you sweetly ask your brother if he wants to play outside with you, watching the games you play on the trampoline while your brother laughs his boisterous laugh. There are so many others as well--watching you sleep, wrapping my arms around you as we say good morning or good night, seeing the pride on your face as you share your good news of the day, seeing your happiness as you see me taking it all in at swimming lessons or soccer games. These are those moments. The ones I wish to freeze in time. The ones I cherish. The ones I am secretly trying to capture and hold on to forever in my time capsule. I love you more than I ever thought possible. Each phase of life passes and I look back with some sadness, but also with excitement. You are so BEAUTIFUL. Your heart and minds are incredible. You will do big things in this world. I can only hold excitement in my heart and hold the memories dear.
"Most of the time, when it happens, I am completely taken by
surprise.
It’s in the innocent way
you wake up in the morning, your hair in tangles because you sleep just like I
do, all wrapped up, your blankets pulled tight around your shoulders, your feet
lying bare on your favorite Frozen sheets.
It’s in the way you look at me, not a trace of the makeup I know
you will beg me to wear someday, and a little piece of my heart will break
because you can’t see yourself the way I see you.
It’s when I’m struck, watching you run across the yard, giggling
with your sister, your bodies so pure and joyful in motion, not a trace of the
self-consciousness that will plague you for the rest of your life.
It hits me when I see you—a young girl startlingly replacing the
baby who once surprised me with her appearance, the baby who changed
everything, the baby who used to fit perfectly into the space next to my
heart—and it never fails to take my breath away.
Because it’s in those moments, dear daughter—the moments you
will never see, the realization you may never have, but I can see and will
always see—that you are so, so beautiful.
I wonder when it will happen that you first start to
consider what you look like to others. When you will tug and pull at your
clothing, moving this way and that in a mirror that will never reflect back
what I see in you.
I wonder when you will
frown that first fateful frown of women everywhere, when you will become your
own harshest critic, when you will roll your eyes in disdain when I doth dare
protest that you look beautiful.
Because I mean it, dear daughter, I really do.
You may pluck and prune and tweeze and shape and diet and crunch
and preen and maybe even glitterize (Do teens still use glitter? Excuse me if
my age is showing), but to me, dear daughter, you will always be the most
beautiful sight my eyes have ever gazed upon.
To me, you will always
invoke wonder and awe, the same way I felt that day in the delivery room when
they laid you, squalling and sprawling warm limbs upon my chest, and I gasped
because it was you. You, whom I somehow recognized
instantly, as if we were old chums who had merely been once separated and now
reunited, picking up comfortably where we had once left off, instead of mother
and daughter meeting for the first time.
The truth is, sometimes I just watch you. I realize that perhaps
that might sound a little strange, but I make no apologies because I’m a mother
and therefore just a tad clinically insane, because it’s impossible to live
with your heart walking around outside of your body in a world that’s basically
a ticking time bomb of hate and sorrow without losing your mind just a little
bit.
I watch you because I’ve never stopped feeling like I am gasping
in awe, a sharp intake of breath with the weight of you in my arms, my heart
swelling and beating until I feel like it has left the confines of my chest and
swallowed us both whole.
I watch you because everything about you, from that freckle on
your leg, to the way you push your hair behind your ears, to the concentration
when you color, mesmerizes me.
Sometimes, the intensity of how much I love you startles me,
like I have to keep myself in check, stepping back into the shadows and
reminding myself to keep it cool, don’t scare them like the crazy emotional
mother you are. I cried at kindergarten graduation and I was embarrassed then,
knowing I had a full 18 years and three more children to get through, and
damn, this is going to be hard.
But I want to bottle up
the beauty I see in you, in every careless way you jump and run and wrestle
with your siblings, in every breath you take while you sleep, in every hug you
give me without even thinking about it. I want to scoop your breathtaking
beauty up, like piles of sand and hand it to you when you hit that age I know is coming, that age when you start to live
not just for yourself and the pure joy of being you, but in comparison to
others—to women, in the eyes of boys, against your own harsh standards.
I want to hoist up the world’s biggest mirror, a mirror that
could magically show you what I see, and gesture wildly, begging you to look,
just look at what I see in you.
To see the kindness, the strength, the sensitivity, the
intelligence, the kindness, every quirk and flaw and trait, woven together in a
tapestry I could never create.
Because dear daughter, you are so beautiful.
Even though someday, I know you won’t believe it.
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